Approach: Seating

On the subject of your initial seating, different people have said different things. Here's what I've tested and found effective. If I'm wrong on any of this, I'll be the first to say so, the moment experience convinces me that that's the case.

First of all, this applies specifically to approaching a person. This may be the initial approach, or you might have made plans for the first time and you find her sitting at a table. The left column is the formal zone, which makes both people feel uncomfortable. The middle is the respectfully assertive zone, which is where you'll want to be. The right zone is the threatening zone, which is likely to scare a person unless you know them very well.

Notice how a certain position can be taken (and intended) as either formal or confrontational. Under confrontational, I've also marked the positions that are threatening to a person right off the bat. You can see that they'll make the person feel cornered.

NOTE: In the bottom row, middle column, the bottom-right position is fine on a picnic table, but not on a booth where you'd box the person in. The top position represents pulling up a chair to the booth.

SS94HSC: Workbook Chapter 5*

Negation

I've made exercises for this chapter, which has none of its own. I've released them to the public domain, and they can be found below. My answers are directly below it, so don't scroll below the embedded document (that is NOT a negation!). 

SS94HSC: Chapter 5 Exercises (original fan content)

1. B
2. C
3. (feel free to get creative after the halfway point)

• It's not necessary to feel this way to want to do this.
• You really shouldn't already be feeling a connection as you take in this experience.
• Don't look deep inside as you find your own reasons to do this.
• You wouldn't do this as you do that.
• You probably couldn't already be feeling a connection before you find your own reasons why this feels right.
• You wouldn't already want to do this as you take in this experience.
• It's not necessary to do this as you feel this way.
• You don't even have to know why... it feels so good. (Credit: Major Mark's Ecology for Men)
• You probably can't notice how negations can work as weasel phrases as you construct these phrases.
• And you don't want to open your eyes to what negations have in common with challenges and take-aways. Nah, you wouldn't be interested in that!

4.

• I was at the bar with a friend the other day, and this guy said something unbelievable! He went up to this girl, and he said "even if you don't find yourself wanting to blow me, right now, what would happen if you were to keep thinking about that?" What was he thinking!? Can you imagine what it would have been like to think about that over and over?
• I was sailing the high seas, and you won't believe what I heard this scurvy dog say! He boarded our ship, went up to this woman, and said "ye don't even have to start lusting for me, right now, to give me all yer doubloons!" Can you imagine how it would feel to keep thinking about that?
• I was talking to my friend Cathy the other day, and she told me "you really shouldn't start to feel turned on right now. We couldn't start picturing ourselves tearing each other's clothes off and fucking like rabbits. It would just ruin the friendship!" Anyway, I don't want you to keep thinking about that. What's it like being a publisher?

5.

• I went to this even the other day, and when I got there, I saw something amazing. There I was, and in front of me was this steel monstrosity -- a roller coaster! I took my friend's hand and we hopped on it right away! When we got on it, and started that slow climb up, it was like you didn't even have to feel yourself breathing faster, and feel your heart pumping to really take in how exciting this is. When that car dropped down, we were just screaming with excitement, as we could just set aside the past, the future, and focus on the now--right now, and feel the wind blowing on your face, your feet in your shoes, and really enjoy this ride right to the point where you get off.

SS94HSC: Workbook Chapter 4

1) Q: "Have you ever" works because...
1) A: D - it acts as a command to experience what you describe, slips under the radar as a question, and sets up a description of what you want them to experience.

2) Q: If you want to get a woman hot and horny...
2) A: B - ask her a question that requires her to get a taste of the feeling of attraction, then intensify and link it.

3) Q: When properly describing a state or experience, you are...
3) A: C - directing her to undergo that state or experience.

4) Q: If you're going to describe an intense feeling state, you should...
4) A: B - use pictures and sounds as a lead-in (begin with lower intensity) to describing the body feelings, then focus her attention on the body feelings as you amplify them.

SS94HSC: Workbook Chapter 3

1. B - commands end with a down turn in tonality
2. C - command her without tripping her alarm system
3. B - to set up commands while creating the appearance and experience of a normal conversation
4. 10 embedded commands. Go!

• What's it like when you experience absolute lust?
• It's not necessary to forget all about him... to continue feeling these amazing feelings, only as easily as you can imagine how much better this can get.
• A person can know someone's attractive... as easily as you open your mind and see past the surface.
• As you get very horny...
• You don't have to fall completely in love to enjoy this
• As you do that
• You really shouldn't think about how much you really want this.
• How does it feel when you become incredibly turned on?
• If you were to start to feel turned on, would you deny it as the feeling grows, or give in to how good this feels?
• When you picture yourself getting a good spanking, do you start to crave one, or remember your desire for it?

SS94HSC: Workbook Chapter 1

1) Q: A smart SSer never plans the states he wants a woman to experience.
1) A: FALSE. "Always communicate with an outcome in mind." However, plans should be flexible, or the slightest unexpected event will completely foil them.

2) Q: Get a girl hot and bothered first, then create a deep connection.
2) A: FALSE. Create the connection first, as mentally healthy people are only comfortable lusting for someone they can feel comfortable and safe around.

3) Q: Love is...
3) A: C, a result of a mental process that one can undergo or be directed to undergo. People simply choose not to most of the time.

4) Q: On a date, the most important thing to think about is...
4) A: D, none of the above. Focus externally, be aware of her signals and responses, key words and internal patterns.

5) Q: List states to install
5) A: Absolute comfort, total fascination, incredible desire, extreme lust!

6) Q: "Nice guys" only manage to get women to experience...
6) A: B, mild comfort and enjoyment. Kind of like how it feels to play a low-intensity video game.

7) Q: SS works by...
7) A: D, deciding what states you want her to experience, directing her to feel these feelings, and linking them to being around you.

9) Q: An example of a softener is...
9) A: C, the polite introduction to a question that is going to go places!

SS94HSC: Workbook Chapter 6

1. You wouldn't believe the nerve some guys have! The other night, I was at a party where I saw this guy walk up to a girl, look her in the eyes, and say "if you could imagine having amazing sex with me, how easily can you get incredibly hot and horny?" Did he think she would keep thinking about that all night?

2.

• a) one time, I was going out to get the mail, and you won't believe what the mailman told me! He said, "if you were to find yourself feeling totally hot and bothered right now, how much more would you want to take this package?"
• b) one time I was at a bar, and you wouldn't believe what this guy did. He went right up to this girl, and said "what would it be like to imagine me eating your pussy all night long, to the point where you're begging for it?" How can you say that! Can you imagine having that looping in your mind?
• c) I was at a bondage workshop, and this guy said something you wouldn't believe! He went up to my friend, and said "if you could imagine having sheet-ripping, animal sex with me, right now, how quickly would you want to join me in the closet?" I can't believe he'd want her to keep thinking about that!

3. Quotes present what you are saying as coming out of someone else's mouth. Descriptions offer someone else's entire experience, which she can then apply to herself as she listens closely and imagines this happening right now ;)

Definition: Seduction

For the purposes of this blog, and anything I say on this subject, seduction will be defined as such:

seduction, n.: the maneuver by which a man can share a connection, lust, sexual satisfaction, and the desire for more with the women of his choice in a way that has a positive impact on both parties, and does not require money, looks, status, or anything else other than the man's personality

Specifically, I am pursuing mastery of Speed Seduction, devised by Ross Jeffries, advanced and influenced by his many students. There are other methods that claim to be seduction, but they do not fit this definition, so they will not be considered or cast in any positive light.

Any method or maneuver by which a man pressures or limits the options of a woman so that she will have sex with him, such as by making her feel insecure, insulting her, and otherwise having a negative impact on her is called emotional abuse.

Thank you for reading.