Approach: Seating

On the subject of your initial seating, different people have said different things. Here's what I've tested and found effective. If I'm wrong on any of this, I'll be the first to say so, the moment experience convinces me that that's the case.

First of all, this applies specifically to approaching a person. This may be the initial approach, or you might have made plans for the first time and you find her sitting at a table. The left column is the formal zone, which makes both people feel uncomfortable. The middle is the respectfully assertive zone, which is where you'll want to be. The right zone is the threatening zone, which is likely to scare a person unless you know them very well.

Notice how a certain position can be taken (and intended) as either formal or confrontational. Under confrontational, I've also marked the positions that are threatening to a person right off the bat. You can see that they'll make the person feel cornered.

NOTE: In the bottom row, middle column, the bottom-right position is fine on a picnic table, but not on a booth where you'd box the person in. The top position represents pulling up a chair to the booth.

SS94HSC: Workbook Chapter 5*

Negation

I've made exercises for this chapter, which has none of its own. I've released them to the public domain, and they can be found below. My answers are directly below it, so don't scroll below the embedded document (that is NOT a negation!). 

SS94HSC: Chapter 5 Exercises (original fan content)

1. B
2. C
3. (feel free to get creative after the halfway point)

• It's not necessary to feel this way to want to do this.
• You really shouldn't already be feeling a connection as you take in this experience.
• Don't look deep inside as you find your own reasons to do this.
• You wouldn't do this as you do that.
• You probably couldn't already be feeling a connection before you find your own reasons why this feels right.
• You wouldn't already want to do this as you take in this experience.
• It's not necessary to do this as you feel this way.
• You don't even have to know why... it feels so good. (Credit: Major Mark's Ecology for Men)
• You probably can't notice how negations can work as weasel phrases as you construct these phrases.
• And you don't want to open your eyes to what negations have in common with challenges and take-aways. Nah, you wouldn't be interested in that!

4.

• I was at the bar with a friend the other day, and this guy said something unbelievable! He went up to this girl, and he said "even if you don't find yourself wanting to blow me, right now, what would happen if you were to keep thinking about that?" What was he thinking!? Can you imagine what it would have been like to think about that over and over?
• I was sailing the high seas, and you won't believe what I heard this scurvy dog say! He boarded our ship, went up to this woman, and said "ye don't even have to start lusting for me, right now, to give me all yer doubloons!" Can you imagine how it would feel to keep thinking about that?
• I was talking to my friend Cathy the other day, and she told me "you really shouldn't start to feel turned on right now. We couldn't start picturing ourselves tearing each other's clothes off and fucking like rabbits. It would just ruin the friendship!" Anyway, I don't want you to keep thinking about that. What's it like being a publisher?

5.

• I went to this even the other day, and when I got there, I saw something amazing. There I was, and in front of me was this steel monstrosity -- a roller coaster! I took my friend's hand and we hopped on it right away! When we got on it, and started that slow climb up, it was like you didn't even have to feel yourself breathing faster, and feel your heart pumping to really take in how exciting this is. When that car dropped down, we were just screaming with excitement, as we could just set aside the past, the future, and focus on the now--right now, and feel the wind blowing on your face, your feet in your shoes, and really enjoy this ride right to the point where you get off.

Definition: Seduction

For the purposes of this blog, and anything I say on this subject, seduction will be defined as such:

seduction, n.: the maneuver by which a man can share a connection, lust, sexual satisfaction, and the desire for more with the women of his choice in a way that has a positive impact on both parties, and does not require money, looks, status, or anything else other than the man's personality

Specifically, I am pursuing mastery of Speed Seduction, devised by Ross Jeffries, advanced and influenced by his many students. There are other methods that claim to be seduction, but they do not fit this definition, so they will not be considered or cast in any positive light.

Any method or maneuver by which a man pressures or limits the options of a woman so that she will have sex with him, such as by making her feel insecure, insulting her, and otherwise having a negative impact on her is called emotional abuse.

Thank you for reading.

Thoughts: the Text Zone

Amid all the claims of "text game," I call bullshit. There's no such thing as text game. There is only being attractive enough in the conventional sense that she chooses to make it work out for you.

I'll explain why. Depending on who makes up the figures, communication is 65-70% body language, 25-30% tone of voice, and 5-10% content. When you're texting, you have only 5-10% of your ability to communicate at your disposal. If you were to compare this to walking, texting would be equivalent to being a paraplegic in a wheelchair that ran out of battery power. If you were to get anywhere, she'd have to push you!

The point of seduction is not to need her push. You need her participation, but you don't need her to carry you. I'll boldly say that if your method or strategy requires women to carry you through any part of it, you are not practicing seduction, you're just lucky. So, effectively, text game cannot and does not exist.

What does exist is the text zone. This is when a girl won't pick up your calls, doesn't call back, but will text you and respond to your texts. Naturally, she never wants to see your face again, either. I see so many threads on forums about "what should I text her?" or "I was texting this girl and __________ where did I go wrong?"
The good news is that, in these scenarios, it wasn't anything they said. It was because they're pansies who let themselves get text zoned.